La Douleur Exquise

One of the best things in life for me is discovering words for feelings you never knew existed. La Douleur Exquise is French for “the heart-wrenching pain of wanting someone you can’t have.”
All my life, I’ve been told different meanings of the word “Love” but I still don’t know what it means. Maybe it’s just different for everyone else. I can’t describe what it means for me. Maybe I don’t believe in it. I think I don’t have to rush, I’ll find it out someday. Although for now, I do have feelings for someone I have never met. To describe those feelings: I’m just really fond of that person and I absolutely love the way he thinks. Even though I can’t describe what love is for me just yet, I know this is not love. One more thing that I know is I’m never going to be with him. I’ve just wanted someone who wouldn’t care about how I look and he is one of those people and for the first time in my life I’m afraid. Afraid that I am not interesting enough. This will stay unrequited because he’s my type but I’m not his type. But it bothers me. And the fact that it bothers me, bothers me also.



9 thoughts on “La Douleur Exquise

  1. Interesting timing in this post for me. I’m 49, right? And just this week, after all these years, for the first time, I think I came up with a real definition for love. This did not come about via cerebral pondering so much as through powerful experience that finally just formed into a sentence. So here it is in the most simple of sentences: “Love is when someone is in your soul and you can’t get them out.” And were there a second part of that sentence, it would be something like “…and you know that they’ll probably always be in your soul and you’ll never quite get them all out, no matter what happens.” And the realization behind it is that you have no control whatsoever as to who flies into your soul and who doesn’t. And sometimes it seems that a person was already hiding in your soul when you first met them, and that they were just waiting for the meeting to happen to reveal themselves. ~ ~ Okay…, I didn’t plan on writing that much when I started this comment, but, maybe that’ll help a bit. Of course it doesn’t help with the pain of that unrequited longing… But here’s another thought. You mention “looks”. I can’t imagine this person wouldn’t like the way you look…, but I’ve discovered that this doesn’t really have a lot to do with it anyway… A soul connection transcends all of that. A kind of gravity that forms its own conclusions. ~ And please forgive me for bombarding your post with this long comment. [smile] I hope your day is going well. ~ Bill

  2. love is such a wonderful feeling my dear..and as I am thinking about this myself these days so it was a nice co-incident to read your post about it…expressed well here and I do agree with ghostinthewalls as he said that someone is in your soul and you can’t get them out..and I think love is beautiful even when you can’t have the person just like after break up you are not with them anymore but you can’t stop loving them just because you broke up…its hard to let go sometimes and I guess even when trying to let go we do that for our possession and not love….love this article dear

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